My daughter is a princess for Halloween. Was speaking to another father whose little girl is also going to be a princess.
My friend asked me, "which one?"
I said, "I don’t know. The good princess kind."
He said, "better be careful, princesses are role models… and there are some pretty bad princess role models out there."
"Really?"
"Yep. Take Ariel from the Little Mermaid. Basically told the dad to shove it and made a deal with the devil. Classic stuff. The dad had to eventually go to hell to save her."
"What?"
"No foolin’. Not something I want my little girl to model after."
I said, "wow, I hadn’t thought of it that way."
He said, "oh, believe me, you will. How about that Belle in Beauty & The Beast? Chick dates animals, for cryin’ out loud."
I responded with a shiver and went silent for a moment. Then I had a thought: "I see what you mean. Hmmm. Even Snow White hung out with a pretty motley crowd… a bunch of sloppy under-achievers, eh?"
"Yes, yes, that’s right!" he said enthusiastically, seeing that I was finally clueing in to this modern day dad dilemma.
I was dazed. A world that I thought was innocent and safe was now riddled with danger and questionable behavior.
" ‘Bout the best princess role model out there is Cinderella," he finally ventured.
My brow furrowed. I was suddenly distrustful of all princesses.
"No, seriously," he said sensing my angst. "Think about it. Great work ethic and a phenomenal attitude, especially with such a rough upbringing. Always presentable. Likes gardening. Can dance up a storm. See what I mean?"
Again, a bit of silence, until I said, "yes, but it would have been good if she went to college and was more of a self-made woman, not completely constrained by that Prince Charming thing, don’t you think?"
It was his turn to furrow his brow. "Hmmm. Bummer, maybe she’s not such a great role model, either."
We both stood there, bobbing our heads in a faint, resigned way, reaching that wall of inevitability: Where have all the good princesses gone?
I could only think of one thing: As a female role model, good thing her mom is as good as gold!