Posts Tagged ‘Birthday’

At some point soon I’m going to hit another decade mark… and for the first time that I can remember, it’s kinda bugging me.

I don’t feel old.  I don’t think I act old.  And, yet, when an app asks me what year I was born, it takes me quite a few spins on the digital thumb-dial to get to my birth year.

Ouch.

When I was growing up, I always looked a bit older than I was.

That wasn’t such a bad thing.  I played my first hand of Blackjack in a real casino at the age of 16.  Even though I was underage myself, I was always the guy that got the girls into bars that couldn’t get in themselves.  And I was drinking at the Oasis from freshman year in college on — and since they carded almost everyone, that was quite a feat.

Now, later in life, I’m working hard to flip that.  Definitely helps that a shaved head is a fashion choice these days.  ;)

But regardless of how one looks, hitting a big milestone birthday gives you the inalienable right to share some beer-can wisdom.

Here’s what I’ve learned so far:

*  There is absolutely no downside to being polite to everyone.

*  And more than that, try to be genuinely nice… and, even better, kind… to everyone.  Because everyone deserves that.  The Golden Rule is golden for a reason.

*  And that includes animals, too.

*  And that includes the planet, too.

*  Never ask someone to do something that you wouldn’t do yourself.  Only jerks do that.

*  It may feel like a sprint but it’s really, truly a long-distance race.

*  You can’t do it alone.  And even if you can, it would be lonely.

*  Doing is better than not doing.

*  Don’t quit.

*  Don’t act your age.

*  Don’t judge.  You just never know what someone’s going/gone through.

*  Remember there are two sides to every story.

*  Take the high side.  Closed doors reopen all the time.

*  In the darkest times, make sure you have a goal… any goal.  There always needs to be some light… any light… at the end of the tunnel.

*  From time to time — especially in the darkest times — try a little spirituality.  It really is good for the soul.

*  Always ask yourself:  Am I proud of the way I behaved?  With family and friends?  With strangers?  In social situations?  In sports?  In business dealings?  When no one is looking?  That’s your true compass.  So few people actually ask themselves this… but from an integrity point-of-view — and from a, “is this the kind of person you want to be?!” point-of-view — that may be the most important question in life.

As you can see, I had to drink a lot of beer to gain that much wisdom.  ;)   There are probably some other really great ones… but after a few challenging and battered decades where I thought of throwing in the towel many times, those have served me well for as long as I can remember.

Which, according to my driver’s license, is a fairly long time.  :)